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Top 10: Female Sex Fantasies

Wednesday, October 21st, 2009


f you think women don’t sit around fantasizing about very naughty things, think again. Women are experts when it comes to dreaming up the sauciest of fantasies, and they don’t bother limiting themselves to the traditional. The top 10 female sex fantasies cover everything from fetish to threesomes, and you may be surprised to know that many women want to do more than just fantasize. Some women spend just as much time hoping their men will help put their female sex fantasies into practice. Sound interesting? Read on: we’ll give you the inside scoop on the top 10 female sex fantasies, and what she’s really daydreaming about when you least expect it.


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Domination (her dominating you)

Women love a big strong man who can sweep them off their feet and carry them into the sunset — but you may be surprised to learn that one of the top female sex fantasies is to have that same big strong man begging for sexual release in the bedroom. One of the top 10 female fantasies involves tying you down to a bed while she forces you to pleasure her with your tongue; the entire scenario revolves around you worshipping her body and begging for her attention. Why? She gets to be in control while enjoying total devotion from her man in the process. What more could she want?


Domination (you dominating her)

The advent of the metrosexual is most commonly blamed for this top 10 female sex fantasy. It seems that modern, independent women actually prefer real men who aren’t afraid to embrace their testosterone. This woman fantasizes about you pinning her down, thrusting her thighs apart with your knee and penetrating her as savagely as you possibly can. She wants to feel your fingers snake through her hair and pull her head back; she wants to feel your teeth on her shoulder; she wants to be owned — if only while in the bedroom (after which, she’ll want a clear return to equality). This win-win female sex fantasy scenario allows her to fully indulge her femininity, while still espousing the merits of feminism.



You’ll be thrilled to know that the Britney Spears fantasy isn’t just for men: Women love the idea of dressing up like a schoolgirl and parading about for your viewing pleasure. Many would even like to take it a step further, playing the naughty tart who won’t stop teasing you until you pull her over your knee and give her the spanking she craves. That’s right: Loads and loads of grown women fantasize about getting a proper spanking from their man. A spanking from you is exciting for two reasons: not only does this mild show of dominance hurt so good, but it also usually leads straight into hot, hot sex.


Sex with a stranger

Most women wouldn’t have the chutzpah to act out this top 10 female sex fantasy, but you’d better believe that most have thoroughly enjoyed thinking about it. No-strings-attached sex is something many women would love to experience, but most are dissuaded from it thanks to a lofty load of self-produced guilt. Nevertheless, her panties definitely get wet at the idea of a gorgeous male approaching her in a dark, smoky bar and taking her back to his room for a long, hot night of wild sex. This female sex fantasy appeals to her naughtiest side — the kinky one that rarely sees the light of day, thanks to a lifetime of religious and societal conditioning.


Threesome with another woman

These days, it’s fairly common for straight women to get down with other women now and again, making this top 10 female sex fantasy a not-so-unrealistic possibility. That being said, this threesome fantasy rarely involves you getting playtime with the second hottie, as most girlfriends do not want to see their man touch another woman. In this scenario, you’re meant to play voyeur until your woman is ready for something more hardcore. This allows her to experience the best of both worlds without having to worry about things like jealousy or sharing.


Threesome with two men

This top 10 female sex fantasy involves the woman being worshipped and adored by two gorgeous men. These men are typically heterosexual and, therefore, only interested in the woman — which translates into a whole lot of action for her. Her sex fantasy might be as innocent as being penetrated by one man while performing oral sex on the other or it might go further, drawing on more hardcore aspects such as double penetration and the like. This female sex fantasy is the ultimate taboo for many women, which makes it all the more fun to imagine.



If you think women don’t enjoy watching other people get it on, you’re completely mistaken. Your woman likes to watch for the same reasons you do: it’s erotic, exhilarating and slightly taboo. She may fantasize about peeping through the neighbor’s bedroom window, spying on a kinky couple in the park or even catching a full-on orgy from the sidelines. Believe it when we tell you she enjoys "watching" just as much as you do; it allows to her be naughty without getting her hands dirty, so to speak.



As mentioned in our Common Female Fantasies article, rape is a massively popular fantasy among women. Most psychologists believe this top 10 female sex fantasy allows a woman to have the wild, dirty sex she craves, without having to suffer the guilt that often follows. These female sex fantasies usually involve a gorgeous man carrying her off to his bedroom and quickly getting down to business. She’ll protest as he tears her clothing off and expertly arouses her body, but on the inside, she’ll love every minute of it. This continues to the point of penetration, and leads her to an incredible orgasm despite her earlier protests. This female sex fantasy allows a woman to be wanton and enjoy sex — something society rarely permits.



She might cringe when you bring up the topic of making homemade porn flicks, but your woman has probably fantasized about doing precisely that at one time or another. Unfortunately, most women are far too body-conscious to experiment with such things, making this a top 10 female sex fantasy, as opposed to a reality. Believe it or not, some women even take this desire to the next level, fantasizing about others watching as you shag her silly in a public place.


Private dancer

Most women wouldn’t have the nerve to strip in a public setting, but this top 10 female sex fantasy definitely involves taking it all off. She loves the idea of tantalizing you with a striptease, and she’d love to give you a private lap dance. Why? Your enjoyment tells her you find her attractive, and your erection tells her she has control — a potent combination that women simply can’t get enough of.


Some of these female sex fantasies may have little chance of progressing to reality with your woman, but some have more potential than you may realize. A little bit of coaxing can go a long way in terms of spicing things up in the bedroom. Ask her which of these top 10 female sex fantasies she finds most appealing, and see if she’s willing to experiment — you may be surprised by her answer.


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By Isabella Snow


Breakup Warning Signs

Thursday, October 15th, 2009


o one wants to be ambushed by an unexpected breakup. Sometimes it’s pretty obvious when a breakup is on the horizon, but other times, the signs your girlfriend gives that she’s through with the relationship can be subtle. If you can pick up on these hints, you might be able to do something about it before it’s too late and you find yourself dumped. Or, if you’re entertaining the idea of breaking up yourself, you can beat her to the punch once you notice these subtle breakup warning signs.


Her friends don’t talk to you

You may notice a change in how her friends act when you come around. In the past, they probably talked a mile a minute and you had trouble getting a word in edgewise, but now a strange hush falls over the group when you’re present. If your girlfriend has been talking to them about wanting to break up with you, they are going to distance themselves from you — whether they realize they’re doing it or not. So when you walk into the room, instead of greeting you warmly, they’ll find themselves at a loss for words; it’s a classic among breakup warning signs.

Once-mutual friends are now exclusively hers

This only applies if you get invited to events where her friends are in the first place. If she’s thinking about breaking up with you, she’ll probably stop inviting you along when she hangs out with her friends. They may have become mutual friends during your relationship, but when she wants to call it quits with you, they will become hers and hers alone once more. It’s likely a subtle breakup warning sign if her response to you asking about her plans for tomorrow night is along the lines of; “I’m going to hang out with my friends.”

Her stuff starts disappearing from your place

You’re used to seeing her toothbrush beside yours in the bathroom, random DVDs she has brought over on your shelves and that concert tee she loves to sleep in strewn on your floor, but lately these things seem to be gradually disappearing. You might be tempted to blame some of it on a spring cleaning spree, but once the feminine products vanish from your medicine cabinet, it should be clear that she’s moving her stuff out of your place so she won’t have anything to go back for once she dumps you.

You don’t fight anymore

While fighting constantly may be a more obvious hint that the end of a relationship is near, not fighting at all might be a subtler sign that she’s ready to say goodbye. If the little things that normally drive her crazy and provoke a screaming match between the two of you are no longer happening, it could mean that she just doesn’t care anymore. It’s possible that she has lost all emotional investment in the relationship, so even if you try to get a rise out of her, she won’t take the bait. If she is uncharacteristically calm in situations that used to set her off, it might be a subtle breakup warning sign.


Any one of these breakup warning signs on its own may be cause for alarm, but if you’re experiencing all of them, it’s pretty obvious that your relationship is in serious trouble. Decide whether you want to fix it or move on and then take the appropriate action. Allowing your relationship to stagnate in this state will only allow resentments to fester and guarantee that the inevitable breakup will be ugly.

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By Sarah Stefanson

Why Women Love Gay Men

Friday, October 9th, 2009


n recent years, movies and television shows geared toward women have idealized the gay male friend. Shows like Sex and the City, for example, seem to suggest that no woman’s circle of friends is complete without at least one good gay friend. Maybe we’re reading a bit too much into this, but we’re pretty sure this fictional phenomenon has at least some roots in reality. In our experience, women love gay men.

However, according to the big and small screens, it seems there’s a particular kind of gay man with which most women are enamored by: They love the stylish, sarcastic and supportive guy; the gay man who looks good, listens to her and is loyal to a fault. Upon examination, it’s not hard to figure out why women love gay men who fit this criteria.

So, it stands to reason that by examining what women love about gay men, we heterosexual guys might be able to learn a few things.



Men’s clothes

Many, if not most, gay men have a great sense of fashion and style. For whatever reason, it seems gay men know how to dress, and they often put us heterosexual guys to shame with their impeccable taste in clothes and high fashion IQ. This is just one of the many reasons why women love gay men.

So, how can you tell if you have style or not? Ask yourself this: Do you ever walk into a crowded room and feel like the best-dressed guy there? If your answer is “no, never” you may need to rethink your wardrobe. In fact, if women rarely compliment you on your appearance — say, less than once or twice a week — it’s probably time to restock your closet.

Physical fitness

Yes, it’s a bit of a stereotype, but you’ll probably concede that many of the gay men you know are serious about physical fitness, and that’s another reason why women love gay men. Of course, heterosexual women are big fans of the carefully sculpted male form. Gay or straight, women enjoy being in the presence of a well-built man.

However, it’s also the shared interest in working out and living a healthy lifestyle that women appreciate about their gay friends. In many instances, gay men simply take better care of themselves than we do, and our female companions would appreciate it if we followed suit. So take a cue from your athletically inclined gay friends, and hit the gym with your significant other, or join her when she goes for a run.

At least do a sit-up or two, tubby.


A 2008 study published by the National Academy of Sciences revealed that gay men and straight women have similarly shaped brains: Both are symmetrical, whereas the straight male brain is asymmetrical; it is slightly larger on the right side (the same shape as the gay female brain). So, it’s possible that gay men think and see the world in a way that women can relate to; that might be another reason why women love gay men.

The bottom line is that your girlfriend’s friends communicate with her, and her gay male friend is no exception. His willingness to sympathize and try to understand her is surely one of the reasons your girlfriend loves her gay friend. And it wouldn’t kill you to take a cue from that guy and think about her feelings a bit more often. Just because our brains are shaped differently doesn’t mean we can’t be a little more sensitive.


Why do women love gay men? Because women don’t have to worry about their gay male friends leaving them for other women. Surely one of the things that women get out of a friendship with a gay man is male companionship without the fear of betrayal or abandonment.

So what can you do to demonstrate your faithfulness to a woman (besides, you know, not cheating on her)? Try keeping your wandering eye in check. For instance, when you’re out with your girlfriend and a pair of insanely hot twins walks by, don’t let your head spin around like a top.


We’re generalizing again here, but let it be said: Gay guys are just a good time. They’re funny, refreshingly frank about sex and they can dance. We recognize there must be some dull, socially awkward gay guys out there, but most of the gay guys we know are fun to hang out with, and that’s another reason why women love gay men.

The lesson for straight guys: Try to be less inhibited. Talk louder. Be bolder. Maybe even strut your stuff on the dance floor every now and then.

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By Andrew Moore

DC Promoters Dave & Ray Give Back to the Community

Wednesday, September 16th, 2009


roving that they can do more than just throw a good party, the Dave & Ray Entertainment Group came together for DC youth this week, providing tons of school supplies to a local neighborhood after-school program. Before presenting the organization with the supplies, the group got the chance to tour the youth center’s facilities and hang out with kids from the program.

“I grew up with an after-school program similar to the one we worked with, and it just reminded me that it doesn’t take much to make these kids happy,” said Ray Hamilton, of the Dave & Ray Entertainment Group. “We’re glad we could spend time with them and provide something that made them smile.”

Giving back is one thing that the Dave & Ray Entertainment Group are committed to doing. In addition to their school supply community service project, the group has done a countless number of other service projects for DC youth and the less fortunate throughout the years. The group plans to continue their service efforts by establishing a scholarship fund for deserving teens for the 2010 Spring semester.

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By Jessica DeTiege

Younger Woman Equals Divorce

Wednesday, September 16th, 2009

If you decide to chase younger tail


n this case, falling in love with a younger woman has caused an expensive divorce for Ronnie Wood, the 62 year old guitarist for the Rolling Stones.

It looks like gramps fell in love with some hot Russian waitress chick named Katia Ivanova. So since Ronnie’s wife, former model Jo Wood, who is 53, would have none of that, in a divorce proceeding the former Mrs. Ex-Rolling Stone Guitarrist was awarded half of Ronnie’s $37 million fortune, plus Jo gets to keep their $19 million home in Kingston, England, and she also gets monthly alimony.

Yeap, falling in love with a younger woman can get really expensive guys. So if you too have a $37 million fortune, just know that half of it belongs to your Mrs. if you decide to chase younger tail.

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