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10 Things Guys Notice First

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So, what are the things guys notice first?
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Believe it or not, that hottie in the corner of the coffee shop that you noticed right away isn’t totally buried in his book. He is checking you out! You may not be aware of it, but he is noticing everything about you. In an online poll, guys admitted that there are a few signs that a girl is worth getting to know a little better. While some of these things that guys notice about a girl may be obvious, others are really subtle! Ready to sneak one by him? If you know what he’s going to zone in on first, you can take a little extra time and TLC on those areas! Here’s your list of 10 things guys notice first!

1. Luscious Locks
Usually, when a guy sees a girl, his eyes automatically look at her face. And he thinks about whether or not she is pretty to him. But what if his first glimpse of you is the back of your head? Some guys have said that they can tell if a girl is pretty or not just by looking at the back of her head! Wanna know how? Her hair! A girl’s hair is a dead-giveaway on how she takes care of herself and presents herself. Make sure your hair is shiny, luscious and bouncy. Even if you don’t have time to curl it everyday, at least make sure it’s clean and combed out. Your hair should look like it smells heavenly and feels like silk!

2. Perfect Posture
A girl who carries her head high and stands straight and tall sends a message out into the crowd. It says, “Hey, I’m confident, comfortable and sexy. I’m the girl you want to get to know!” That’s one of the things guys notice first about a girl! Just think how someone with slumpy, slouchy shoulders looks. Would YOU want to get to know someone who walked around like they had the weight of the world on their shoulders?

3. Your Friends
Surprisingly, the company a girl keeps has a big impact on first impressions that she makes. You know the statement “Birds of a feather flock together”? Well, it’s true! And in most cases, if a girl has loud, whiny, sassy or rude friends, a guy may assume the same thing about her, even if she attracted him at the beginning. But if a girl seem to have a tight knit group of friends who all seem to be having a great time together, it sends a signal that she is genuine and caring. That’s one of the things guys notice first and love right away!

4. Your Pout
Kissing has been proven to be one of the world’s greatest stress relievers and research shows that most humans spend about 20,160 minutes per lifetime smooching! Wowza! So it’s no wonder that one of the things guys notice first is your lips. Are they soft and smooth? Red or pink? Shiny and kissable? You can bet that he’s going to be wondering that until he finds out, so why not make it sweet suspense? Your lips should be kiss-ready every time you walk out your front door!

5. Perfect Dance Moves
A girl who can dance with the best of them proves a few things: She is confident in her skin, she knows how to have a good time, and she’s not afraid to bust a few moves! Plus, that makes a girl impossible not to notice! So next time you are kickin’ it out on the dance floor, remember that you are being noticed and try to have a good time! Don’t be fake and over-the-top, but do have some genuine fun. Guys definitely notice a girl who is havin’ herself a ball!

6. What You Carry Around
Believe it or not, your purse and other stuff you take with you reveal a lot about your personality! A girl who carries a huge purse full of makeup and other stuff like that is probably pretty high maintenance. A girl who has interesting books or puzzles on hand has a cool personality and loves to learn. A girl with a bright pink phone case is probably bubbly and sweet to be around! A girl with NO purse at all is laid-back, chill and spur of the moment. The girl who carries toothpaste, travel size deodorant and lint rollers is always prepared for anything. And yes, guys do notice these things, ladies!

7. Your Smile
Oh here’s an obvious one! But no matter how obvious or cliche it may be, guys DO notice a girl who smiles. And most of them can tell if it’s real or fake. There’s a few who can be fooled-I always hate it when a super nice guy is stuck with a girl who he THINKS is a princess but we all know her game and it’s not nice. But a guy who is attuned and ready can spot a real smile 5 miles out. So get you some teeth whitener and breath strips and get ready to shine, even on days you don’t feel like it. It’s one of the things guys notice!

8. High Heels
Not that you have to wear high heels every single day, but a girl in a pair of skyscrapers is one thing that guys notice first. High heels symbolize sexiness, strength and boldness. So don’t be afraid to pop those babies on every now and then! Mix it up between heels and flats, but make sure you wear heels at least a couple times a week. You never know when Mr. Right will bump into you! And I always say it’s best to be prepared!

9. How You Strut
A sultry strut can reveal a lot to a guy. Remember in “The Princess Diaries” when Princess Mia got walking lessons? It’s true that the way a person walks has a big influence on how they are perceived. Walk with purpose, style, and grace. Walk like a lady! You don’t need to swagger, or walk like you’re on the fashion runway, but do remember that you are a lady and a man-like stomp will not be cute or sexy to a guy!

10. Your Attitude
Probably the most important thing that guys notice first about a girl is her attitude. A girl can be as beautiful as a sun goddess and as sexy as all get-out, but if she has a bad or ugly attitude, a guy will drop her faster than you can say hello. No man wants to be tied down to a mean witch! So make sure that attitude is in ship-shape, and I guarantee you a guy will notice. I realize we all have bad days, just try not to let the bad days have YOU!

There’s a thin line between being sexy and slutty, pretty and overdone, confident and proud, or sweet and fake. And it takes a special girl to be genuine enough to master that line! Now that you have this list of things guys notice first, you will have it down in no time! Please comment below if you loved my article or have anything to share with us! For instance, what do you notice first about guys?

48 replies on “10 Things Guys Notice First”

Oh no no no no no….. How about be yourself 🙂 That’s all that should matter. I lol when she says wear heels twice a week !! Yea right.

Does no one else notice the misogynist tone to this article? Every step tells you to change your routine or take time out of your already busy day so change for men. You realize that a guy who’s going to take your or leave your based off of superficial judgements probably isn’t a good one.

Its nice to have a reference for girls who are looking to impress that special someone but don’t make people change or feel bad about who they are…

Wow thanks for the tips

So what i find in a guy attractive first his ither their hair, eyes, or smile. Even their warm laughter is a turn on. But it also take cofidence and personality no one wants to end up with Captin dumb. The personality it the most important the way he behaves is good indication if he is a keeper!

about the hair part what is you have kinky curly/black people type of hair…?

You’ve also completely overdone it on the exclamation marks! If you use exclamation marks it doesn’t make your point more valid you know!

Glad I’m not the only person who thinks this is a ludicrous piece of sexist tripe. I wonder if it ever occurs to some people that there is more to life than men noticing you, and certainly more to life than spending the whole time trying to get men to notice you. You’ve also generalised the entire male population by suggesting that every man notices or cares about these things. Congratulations. 

And unfortunately none of this works. I have been told many times by guys that are either just friends or that I’ve approach that they were too afraid to come up to me because: 
1) My dance moves: I looked like I really knew how to dance and they would’ve been embarrassed
2) My heels were high and even though they thought it was sexy they felt ‘too short’ beside me
3) I looked content with my friends and confident

So the moral of this story is, at my age (early 20’s) the majority of guys are not looking for confident women and these tips won’t work at bars and clubs. BUT you should never lower your confidence because of that. Eventually someone will appreciate it. Key word: eventually!

“Let’s set the women’s rights movement back about 60 years!”- This is a more fitting title for this article. Ladies, embrace who you actually are. I’m sick of seeing 14 and 15 year olds running around trying to look like they’re 24 or 25. Stop it. This article is not how to get a guy. Be yourself, and the right guy will come along. 

I’m a guy who stumbled upon this article through pinterest. While all of the 10 things are somewhat true and matter to most guys, I feel confidence is the most important. If you are confident in yourself, it will show in your posture, the way you walk, your smile, and your eye contact with other people. Personally, posture is the biggest sign of confidence. Posture can tell a lot about someone. It affects the way you walk, sit, stand, and interact with people. No matter if you’re tall or short, stand up straight. It makes a huge difference.  

Physical features aside, confidence will make me respect someone even if I personally am not attracted to your looks. 

This  article seems like a lot of superficial advice to make other shallow girls jealous, rather than any pointers on things guys actually notice.

Take care of yourself, love yourself, respect who you are, and you’ll get the bonus of being comfortable and happy in addition to landing a guy who respects who you really are, rather than the person you’re trying to be because an article tells you how to act.

Rave…..this article is about what guys notice first, and what might appeal to them. First impressions are everything, and if your impression is “i’m one of the guys”, there’s some men out there who will not dig it. To each their own though!

Look, I appreciate the time it took to write this and it attempts to convey a good message, but in all honesty the guys that MATTER could care less if you’re wearing ridiculously high heels or shiny pink lip gloss. Yes your appearance and hygiene does matter, but if you don’t even look comfortable in your own skin because you followed the slightly shallow advice in this article then he’s going to completely over look you. If your thing is to kick back in some converses, jeans, and a tshirt, then be your sexy self wearing exactly that. Don’t ridiculously overdress yourself on a daily basis just to impress the guys you’ll pass on the street and never see again. As long as you can take care of yourself and be confident with the beautiful person you are then a true gentleman will notice. It’s all about embracing yourself and not caring about the guys who will only notice you if you’re in a tight dress and heels that are uncomfortable as hell. So just love yourself for exactly who you are and he’ll love you. 🙂

And I’m sorry, but not once in my entire life have I met a man who gave a damn about what I carried in my purse.

Girls, a guy doesn’t care if you wear flats or heels. You can dance like an idiot and have chapped lips and still get a guy. The only thing that matters your attitude. I’m not saying to have poor hygiene. It’s good to take care of yourself, but not only to get a man.

I really liked this article and I liked it even more because I do quite a few of those things (mostly in the past few years) and it’s nice to know I’m sending a reasonable impression to the guy I like.

Mostly I will look straight to a guy’s face, or anyone really. And I really look to see if they have a nice, genuine smile. But that kinda goes down the drain when they have disgustingly greasy hair. I’ve only seen it on very few guys, but it’s a big turn off,

But the most important thing to me in appearance is their smile and if they’re kind, laid back and simple.

thanks for this article, is very useful and let me thinking how i got to had my  boyfriend, he comes crazy whit my smile, that was everything…

I absolutely dislike truly high heels. Moderately elevated ones are fine, yet not encouraged.

Thank you for this amazing article – even for married women it can be useful to keep their husbends “in tonus”!!! Perfect!

This was helpful=). Did not know that posture made a difference. Some things that I notice about a guy is firstly: their height, then their hair(if its clean), then their face. Definitely posture makes a difference=)

My mom always told me to look at man’s teeth and shoes. If his teeth aren’t clean and his shoes are old and dirty, what about the rest of his body?

I have to ask something. There’s a guy I like, and I have known him for a couple of years. He’s a year older than me, but were pretty even as far as maturity goes. At the beginning of last year, (this is going to sound weird), I was kind of a different person to what I am now, mostly because I became friends with this girl. So until now, I am scared I may have presented myself as a bitchy girl to him. Also, to add to that, I have an insane thing where I have to win arguments, (in the moment i don’t realise, but after I realise that sometimes I should have just been more jokey about the situation) and i fear that I may have offended him (although whatI generally say shouldn’t be enough to offend!).
So basically, I need to ‘redeem’ myself. If anyone has any suggestions on how to get him to notice me/think differently of me (other than watch what I say, coz I got that covered!!!), i.e. one liners, things to say or do, you get the idea! 
Also, I think at one point we may have been friends, or he may have liked me. And then he started acting stupidly, and saying idiotic things, so I started being…… get it!
Thx for your help!
P.S. Is there anything in particular that scares guys???

Awesome advice! That guy is all mine! 😉 The first things I notice about guys are:
1- Intelligence (like, not Einstein, but smart enough to have a decent conversation)
3-His HAIR! (I know it sounds really dumb, but I have a thing for it)
4-His eyes

well, that was son interesting. what i notice first in  a guy are his eyes. i think in doesn’t really matters the color, but it  need to have a sweet and confident looking, and a kind, warm smile…

Ana, Sexy is showing off your assets in good taste, such as slightly snug around the tush or peek of cleavage (not showing all your breasts when bending over) or slightly short skirt to show off legs but not so short that you will reveal your tush when bending over. Having enough make-up to accent your good features and polishing nails even tho it may be short. Slutty is doing the opposite – think prostitutes or Madonna.

Think of what guys would bring home to their mother. When I met my on-line date for the first time, I wanted to make a good impression, rather, a wow one. I wore a nice blouse, pinned the cleavage area so it just showed a peek plus it was snug just enough to show them off, a short black skirt to show off my legs and it was tight enough to see the outline of my tush. I fixed my hair, put on some make-up with lipstick, polished my short nails and wore heels. He complimented me right away and wooed me. We got married less than 4 months!

oh wow this was really good to know! BTW the first few things i notice about guys is their hair, laugh & smile, friends, clothes and how he walks, i just thought i’d be helpful!

woaha……..its preety informative….but i really want to know how it differs being sexy and slutty?………….

hmmm…..!!! it is really something…!!! and its really cool….!!! BTW, one hting i notice about a guy is their stubble cheek….lol

the first 8 things i notice bout guy is:1.his hair to see if it is long arond there ears because i rekon it looks cuter,i like it to look happy and real and sweet 3.his eyes i want to see if they look distraught and stressedor happy and chilled 4.clothes to see if he takes pride in himsl or he is a scruff to see if he wears formal sneakers or what no 6.size, if he is broad, skinny etc.. 7.i see his face to see if it’s one i would want to stare at 8.lips i like to see if there not dried or thin finger because i hate falling for married guys lol

:Hmmm….why dont they ASK us what we think? I notice if SHE notices me. huge! Second i notice her butt. Sorry ladies but its true. Last her hair and lips.

wowwww this stuff was amazzing! I already knew some of them, but the rest? i had no idea! Again, u did a really great job!! keep telling girls wat they need to hear!! 🙂 simply superb! keep it up! 

WOW, this was amazing, and i do very much agree with you!! some i already knew, but some were totally new to me!! keep telling girls wat they should hear!! great job!!!

really cool,I want to try these things,are there no exceptional guys who see your inner personalities.

I stumbled upon this article and as a guy I think this is all absolutely true.

Be careful with the point about being with friends. Yes it helps, but very few men will have the confidence to approach you if you’re in a tightly closed group. Open it up a little.

How you take care of yourself, especially your figure, comes across enormously. So does how you feel about yourself and how you move. Dance lessons make a big difference, as do (bizarrely) heels. Alas we’re shallow visual creatures.

Happy hunting! 🙂

Hi this article was a lot of help, some of the things in it also count for women noticing men. the first thing I notice about men is if they have kind eyes and a nice smile

such great words of advice thank you and hope to hear what other things to can teach us !!

i think it was nice and really good advice. but i don’t think i’ll have to stick to it strictly. i’m not that stylish or anything, but i have a good posture and i’m a bit quiet type. so if a guy notices me, he’ll notice me the person i am. smiling on good days and glum on the bad ones.

I really enjoyed reading this article, but I knew all of this, so it made me feel quite happy… 🙂 but I think it’ll help some girls, not everyone has a mother like mines. 😛 only kidding 🙂 it’s great. 🙂

Wow!, this is some VERY good advice, man some of the most simple things can make the biggest difference if all females read this it wont be so many lonely ladies out there because its one thing to be alone and another to be lonely. brilliant, thanks.

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