Keep on reading to see if you recognize any of these red flags in your relationship.
He keeps his interactions with her a “secret.”
One clear sign of a great relationship is having open and honest communication with your man. If you find yourself guessing, wondering, or questioning him about the time he spends with his kids, there might be a breakdown in communication. You need to get to the bottom of it promptly. Your man should want to share all aspects of his life with you, including raising his kids. If he evades or checks out when you ask about attending his kid’s basketball game, it might be a cause for concern.
You aren’t allowed to ride with him when he picks up his kid(s).
If it would be sensible for you to ride along but he insists on dropping you off before picking up the kids, raise the red flag. Not allowing you to ride along indicates he might be hiding you from his ex or vice versa. If all parties are rational adults and honest about their roles, there should be no drama.
He lets his cell phone go to voicemail when she calls.
If he deliberately sends her calls to voicemail when you are together, it raises concerns. When the phone rings again, ask him to answer to see what’s up. If he answers but goes to another area in the room out of your earshot, there might be a problem. Innocent people typically do not act guilty.
His awkward and nervous reaction the very first time you and his “baby momma” come face to face.
This correlates with the second indicator. If he hesitates to introduce you or is uncomfortable when you and his ex meet, it could indicate an undisclosed arrangement between them.
In an ideal world, relationships would be like “All of Us” based on the lives of Will and Jada, where the current girlfriend or wife gets along great with the baby momma/ex, and there is little to no drama. However, reality may differ.
The reality is that some men like to have their cake and eat it too, and some women are okay with it, reaping the benefits of familiar territory—aka their ex (baby daddy). There might not necessarily be romantic feelings between your man and his baby momma, and it is just an agreed-upon arrangement for periodic sexual maintenance. If you notice any of these four indicators in your relationship, it’s essential to discuss them with your man. Voice your concerns and let him know how his actions or lack thereof make you feel. Ignoring your gut and resorting to covert tactics to uncover deceit may lead YOUR RELATIONSHIP CAN BE DECLARED AS OFFICIALLY OVER!