One of the reasons why men lose their women is because they lose their own sense of romance. It might take a few days or even a few years, but as one settles into a relationship, it’s a near-guarantee that wooing the lady will slide down the priority list. You might not notice it’s happening, but you can bet that she will.
Here’s a list of 10 signs that you’ve lost your sense of romance, and some pointers on how to pull yourself away from the brink of being single.
10 || You only have candle-lit dinners to save on electricity
Candles are always an ideal way to set the mood, be it at the table or in the tub. Never be a cheapskate when it comes to romance, and shell out for some decent candles in a specialty store. Then use them to light an exquisitely-prepared dinner for her.
9 || You go on romantic walks… to take out the trash
Women love getting attention, but if the only time you escort her outside is to run errands, you’ll be the one getting kicked to the curb. Romantic walks are an ideal way to spend some time together. A moonlit walk on a warm summer evening will definitely get her heart racing.
8 || You buy her gifts with yourself in mind
When buying her a gift make sure it’s for her and her alone… that’s the point of a gift. Steer clear of appliances and household gifts like ironing boards. She’ll merely interpret such presents as a suggestion to do more domestic chores and wait on you. And despite what you may think, that’s never a good thing. Instead, buy something special like jewelry, and always make sure to include a heartfelt card — she’ll appreciate the sentiment.
7 || Your idea of a chick flick is lesbian porn
It’s no secret that women like the occasional sappy film, but what you might not realize is that that these movies also get them in the mood for love. Make an effort to take her to at least one period drama or Drew Barrymore film a month.
6 || You celebrate your anniversary at a buffet
More is not always better. On such a special occasion as an anniversary, the last thing she wants to see is you unbuckling your belt after assaulting a buffet. The key here is to take her somewhere different; somewhere intimate where she’s never been. The surprise of a new eatery could very well lead to some nice surprises in the bedroom later.
5 || You buy her flowers from the gas station
If there’s one thing women know, it’s flowers. She’ll easily see those limp, fume-tainted weeds for what they are, and you’ll be in trouble. Remember that you don’t have to spend a lot to impress her — in fact, you don’t have to spend anything at all. Pick her some flowers yourself, and she’ll love that you took the time and effort to do so.
4 || All the ingredients for your romantic dinner come from a can
When she hears the words “romantic dinner,” she’ll assume that you’re going to be slaving away to make something special. Don’t disappoint by sitting her down to instant soup from a can or Chinese takeout. Get a cookbook or do a search online for a good recipe — preparing a nice meal from scratch is a lot easier than you might think.
3 || You only buy her chocolate when it’s on sale
She’ll definitely sense your true unromantic nature if the only time you get her candy is in the days following Valentine’s Day and Halloween, when it’s all on sale. Be spontaneous and buy her some quality chocolate when she least expects it.
2 || You always use “handyman” verbs in the bedroom
When it comes to the bedroom, romance and sensitivity will get you far. So try to avoid relying on terminology from the handyman profession like hammering, screwing and banging. Instead, be complimentary, and seduce her with your charm and wit.
1 || You only kiss her as a prelude to sex
Women love kissing and prefer to get it in regular doses. So if you’re kissing her only before sex and neglecting to continue doing so throughout and after the process, she’s going to conclude that you’re only after one thing. Make her feel special by giving her regular lip contact.
The first step to picking up the romance in your relationship is to realize that your romance tactics need a kick start. Listen to her needs, be spontaneous and generous, and soon you’ll be beating her off with a stick!