Younger women not only bring new excitement (sexual and otherwise) to dating and relationships, but they can also change your life when it comes to having fun, being spontaneous and feeling great about yourself. With that in mind, here are the top 10 ways to attract younger women and keep it going with them.
No.10 Be a rock
There’s no doubt about it: Younger women usually have a lot of drama going on in their lives. They often revel in it. That’s why, every time a younger woman freaks out about something, you must not let it get to you. You need to stay calm. Don’t try to fix her problems, and don’t try to stand in for Daddy. But remember, one of the most powerful things that you bring to the relationship as an older man is your stability, your ability to be her rock (a totally nonjudgmental rock, that is). So be that rock, and watch what happens.
No.9 Be chivalrous
Most younger women have absolutely no idea what the word “chivalry” means. If you don’t either, you need to learn, because younger women are blown away when you open doors for them, walk on the outside of the curb, pull out their chairs, and make other gestures of courtesy. All these make a huge impression on a younger woman, because it makes you classier than every knuckle-dragging young guy she’s ever dated. She’ll love it.
No.8 Get ready for her to change
There’s no two ways about it: If you’re dating a younger woman, you need to remember that her life is going to change over the next few years. So you need to keep an open mind, be ready to go with the flow and never restrict or hinder her options. Expect and even encourage her to grow, change and realize that chances are slim that she’s going to be with you in a few years, because she probably won’t still be with anyone, no matter who he is, a few years from now when she’s a different person too. So deal with it and be OK with it.
No.7 See her infrequently
You want to see her all the time. But because younger women are much less in control of their emotions, she may therefore begin to see her time with you as a relationship more quickly and easily than you may want. The trigger for her to begin thinking this way is the frequency with which you see and talk to her. If you don’t want to trip that clingy, needy relationship switch, then you need to limit the time you spend with her. Don’t see her more than once a week, and don’t talk to her more than once or twice a week on top of that unless you want her to start becoming very attached to you.
No.6 Let her come to you
Ever notice that if you chase a kitten, it runs away every time, but if you sit and ignore it, you’ll soon find yourself pushing it off of your lap? Same goes for younger women. Remember, younger women already have a daddy. Many times, they’ve just escaped from controlling parents, structured lives and zero freedom. So let her go, let her live her life, and make yourself more scarce. The net result will be that you find that she’s pursuing you.
No.5 Don’t interfere
If you want to make an attractive young woman magically disappear, the best way to do it is to interfere with her life. Her professional life, her personal life and her social life are hers alone. So don’t call her at work. Don’t show up to see her unexpectedly. Don’t embarrass her. She’s free, so let her be free. Encourage her independence. If you can support her with your vast “older guy” knowledge, do it. Above all, never intrude where you’re not wanted. That behavior is a disaster waiting to happen.
No.4 Avoid making a move too early
Here’s something you must remember: Every attractive young woman has at least one story about that “gross older guy” who “tried something” with her. And even if she doesn’t, any younger woman will be hyper-alert when it comes to sketchy behavior from older men. That’s why, if you try to take advantage of the situation, or try to make a move too early, you’ll signal that you’re a pervert and can’t be trusted. So chill. Give her room. Even if she touches you while talking, don’t touch back. Or better yet, make fun of it and say, “Keep your hands off the goods.” Move slow, and you’ll show her everything is cool.
No.3 Be the boss
Women are not attracted to men who don’t take the lead, and younger women are no exception. In fact, younger women have less experience in life, so trying to get them to lead and tell you what they want you to do is a horrible idea. You need to make the rules. Because if you’re considerably older than her and let her be the boss, she’ll smell a wuss and run for the hills. Take charge and don’t let it happen.
No.2 Give her the “bratty little sister” treatment
When it comes to getting younger women interested, one surprisingly effective technique is to treat her like a bratty little sister. This means teasing her, making fun of her, saying all the things you never had the guts to say to those bratty cheerleaders when you were a freshman. And don’t worry about it when she suddenly acts “fake mad” — that’s a sure sign that you need to turn it up some more. Oh, and most fun of all, be a total hypocrite and call her on everything she does or says that’s immature. You’ll get under her skin and keep her thinking about you. Nice.
No.1 Don’t be a creep
When an older guy meets a younger woman, he begins to act weird. He does subtle (and not-so-subtle) things that give a younger woman the creeps — like talking too much or too little, staring, stammering, chasing, and generally acting dorky instead of wise and cool. The reason for this is simple: younger women often make guys feel nervous and “unworthy.” So remember that younger women are just women. They’re not a different species, and everything else you’ve learned still applies. Be cool, confident and in control. Relax. Above all, don’t act like a creep — just get ready for the ride of your life.