Scoring yourself a lady friend who also enjoys women can be an exciting journey — so long as you are both prepared to embark on it.
Bisexuality obviously has its perks for some, and all the extra adventures can enhance your sex life. But she doesn’t have to be truly bisexual (in the most proper sense of the word) for the erotic feminine-loving side of her to emerge (with you present).
There are two versions of women who get it on with other women: the bisexual woman and the bi-curious woman. While bi-curious women are playful and ready to experiment with their sexuality just for fun, bisexual women may or may not be willing to ask you to join in on their girl-on-girl escapades.
Here’s how to tell if your girl is bisexual and whether or not she’s keen to play.
Being bisexual is not something to be made light of. It can be extremely confusing and heartbreaking, and it might be difficult to deal with emotionally. A bisexual woman is not there for your erotic entertainment, so if you want to spend your time with a bisexual woman, get that out of your head — this is not what this relationship is about. If your girlfriend comes out of the closet, treat it the same as if she told you she’s a lesbian: with kindness and care. If she decides that she would like to experiment with you and others, good for you both. If not, don’t push it.
She openly appreciates women
Women who love other women and can appreciate their finer qualities are gems — they are generally not threatened by the beauty of another, and can join you in admiring them. Everyone loves pretty things, and women overall tend to be very pretty things. This is certainly not a definitive clue, but if she is able to appreciate the sex appeal of a woman, then it means her mind is open to observing such things… and maybe, just maybe, it’s also open to more.
She refers to past experiences
If she gets with girls — or has done so in the past — it is likely enough that it will get bought up at some point. With all the woman-smooching that’s been going on in the last 10 or so years (apparently everyone is doing it or has done it), it is highly likely that she has done it at some stage. Whether she liked it or not, and wants to repeat the experience, however, is another story. You will need to probe for more information.
She’s into girl-on-girl porn
Her loving lesbian porn is a dead giveaway. This will tell you a lot more than any other clue. If she can actually watch and enjoy a woman being pleasured by another woman, then it is highly likely that she wouldn’t mind a bit of that action herself.
She’s overly affectionate with certain friends
This can be a good clue, but don’t let your imagination run too rampant — it probably isn’t the girl you wish it was, and making up huge fantasies about your girl and her friends is likely to land you in trouble. Hinting will probably get you in trouble if you’re wrong, so keep it to yourself until you can see what is clearly going on.
Lovin’ the ladies
The easiest way to find out what she likes is to ask her. Amazing, I know, but true. She will probably not have a problem telling you about her experiences, desires and fantasies involving other women. She will be aware that it is one of man’s most sought-after experiences, and because of that, she’ll probably be quite willing to share.
The kind of conversation starter you could try is, “When was the first time you kissed a girl?” This assumes she has, and will no doubt make her giggle as she relates the story — or, it enables you to ask if she would like to (hypothetically, of course). Keep it light, keep it sexy, and maybe you’ll get what you want. Be respectful, be kind, and whatever you do, don’t push your luck — it has a way of backfiring…