But ladies, it’s time to buck up a little. After years and years we’ve finally found the best ways to stop being so depressed and take a step in the direction of getting over it.
1. Don’t try to be friends right away
After being with someone for any amount of time it’s hard to just shut off the romance and be their friend right away. And trying is going to make things awkward. So, give yourself some time. You each need to spend some time apart without speaking before you can try friendship. And until you are absolutely ready to make that step, DON’T make contact; it’ll just be a step in the wrong direction.
2. Let it out
As cheesy and cliché as it may sound, sometimes the best way to get over a break up is to let it all out. Talk it over with a very patient friend who doesn’t mind hearing about how his eyes used to glow right before he kissed you. Or write it out in a diary or in a blog. Whatever you chose to do, don’t censor yourself. Let out every feeling you have about it — it’ll feel like a weight is being lifted off your shoulders.
3. Cry
That’s right, cry. Even when you’re the one doing the breaking up, it’s ok to be sad and want to cry over the loss of your relationship, so why don’t you? You may not feel very cute after but most of the time, a good cry with a good reason feels pretty darn refreshing. So force your sadness out through your eyes and let those teardrops roll.
4. Exercise
Exercising releases endorphins into your body that make you feel happy, or happier. You’ll feel fit, you’ll be doing something good for yourself, and if you’re not the one that did the dumping, it’ll give you that boost of confidence you need to get back on the dating horse.
5. Surround yourself with friends
Your friends are going to be your shoulders to cry on, the people that keep you laughing and your one remaining tie to sanity all at once. They’ll keep you from falling into a deep post-breakup chocolate coma, and most of the time they’ll force you off the couch and back into real life when you need it most. You’re friends are going to push you just when you need to be pushed so don’t shut them out!
Well ladies, I’ve shared just as much post break up wisdom as I can, it’s up to you to use it when necessary. Just remember, ice cream and BBQ ribs will only get you so far. Eventually you’ll need to leave your tissue-covered blanket nest of romantic comedies that make you cry and get back into the real world. Just don’t do it before you’re ready.