When you’re in a new relationship and you don’t know about the proper holiday protocol, you’re probably going crazy looking for signs he wants to spend Christmas together. Does he want you to come home with him for the holidays? Would that make things too serious? What’s going on in his head? Well, worry no more. There are lots of signs he wants to spend Christmas together, some subtle and some obvious, and I’ve got a great list of them for you!
1. He Discusses Activities
In a new relationship, it’s hard to tell if you’ll be putting too much pressure in your boyfriend or girlfriend by wanting to spend the holidays together. This is especially true if your partner generally goes to spend the holiday with his or her family. Let me say right away that it’s always better to just ask outright. If you aren’t comfortable with that, however, then one of the signs he wants to spend Christmas together is that he talks about what he always does for the holidays. He might talk about going skating, viewing a Christmas tree lighting, et cetera, with the distinct implication that he’d like to do it with you.
2. He Alludes to Plans
Your partner may simply allude to plans between the two of you over the Christmas holiday. For instance, he might talk about taking you ice skating, going caroling with the family, decorating the tree, or something like that. If he includes you, even if he doesn’t come out and ask, that’s a pretty big sign.
3. He Asks about Dinner
If he’s asking what foods you like, when you like to eat, and so on, that can be one of the biggest signs he wants to spend Christmas together. It’s a little thing, but trust me, he wouldn’t be asking whether you like traditional turkey or a big Christmas goose if there wasn’t a reason.
4. He Asks about Your Plans
Remember, your partner might be as shy or unsure as you are. If he asks nonchalantly about your plans for the holiday, that’s one thing. If he’s really into know what you’ll be doing and seems interested in whether or not you can change your plans, then odds are he wants you with him for the holiday.
5. He Seems to Take It as a Given
Guys and girls can both be dense sometimes. One of the surest signs he wants to spend Christmas together is if he just takes it for granted that you’ll be with him. I know it’s a crappy thing, but heck, I’m a girl and I’ve been guilty of that. Even if it’s a new relationship, if he’s really into you, he might take it as a given that you’ll be together, whether it’s with your family, his family, or just the two of you.
6. He Discusses Traditions
If he talks a lot about Christmas traditions, it might be his way of seeing if you’re receptive to him. He may also be edging into asking you to spend the holiday with him. Generally guys who don’t care about spending the day together aren’t going to go into detail about how his family always put the angel on top of the tree.
7. He Makes Sure You’re Free
As well, if he doesn’t care about spending the holiday with you, he’s not really going to care if you’re free. Well, I mean, he will, but it won’t be an issue. If knowing that you don’t have plans seems important to him, refer to #4: this is one of the signs he wants to spend Christmas together.
8. He Tells His Mom to Set an Extra Place
Or, conversely, he asks you if your parents can set an extra place. After all, it’s not all about his family. This is, of course, why it’s best to talk about the holiday situation, but you get the idea. If you happen to hear your partner asking his or her family if it’s okay to bring a guest, or if he asks you if your parents would mind, then get ready for your first Christmas together!
As you can see, some signs he wants to spend Christmas together are obvious in retrospect, while others are so subtle that they seem like riddles. Often the best thing you can do is ask outright, but if you’re wary of doing that, lest he think you’re trying to push him into something more serious than he wants, then keeping an eye out for the biggest signs he wants to spend Christmas together will help you. What are some other signs he wants to spend Christmas together that you’ve noticed in the past?